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Listening Profile Questionnaire
Please be as honest with your answers as possible. Mark a yes or no at the end of each question for how you listen most of the time, in regard to these questions. If you want to go deeper with this questionnaire, ask someone who knows you well to answer these questions for you.
Yes No
___ ___ 1. I feel fully present when I’m listening to someone.
___ ___ 2. When someone speaks to me, I walk away feeling like— I really heard them.
___ ___ 3. Each time I’m about to participate in a
challenging conversation, I first become still within myself.
___ ___ 4. I listen every bit as well with my spouse or partner, as I do with my closest friends-- assuming of
course that you’re married or have a partner.
___ ___ 5. Over the years people have complimented me on being a good listener.
___ ___ 6. People perceive me as a person who listens with a sense of caring and empathy.
___ ___ 7. When I listen to someone – for example, a friend, family member, co-worker or client, I also
hear the intention behind the words.
___ ___ 8. I consider myself to be a patient listener. I’m patient when someone is speaking.
___ ___ 9. I try to learn something from practically every person who is speaking to me.
___ ___ 10. When I’m listening to others, my mind is often pre-occupied with planning my next comment.
___ ___ 11. I have more of a tendency to talk than a tendency to listen.
___ ___ 12. I have a habit of interrupting people. I talk over them.
___ ___ 13. I tend to shut off my listening to the person I don’t agree with.
___ ___ 14. I have a habit of tuning in and out of a conversation—without even realizing I’m doing so.
___ ___ 15.
I am effective at acting like I’m fully listening to the person speaking, when in reality I am daydreaming.
___ ___ 16. At times I find myself being judgmental and critical in my listening.
17. On a scale of 1 to 100 (100 being best) how would you rate yourself as a listener? _______________
On a scale of 1 to 100, how would the people below rate you as a listener?
Spouse ________________ Best Friend _________________
Clients _________________ Children ________________
Boss ______________ Parents _________________
Coworkers _________________
Take a moment, be objective, and list 3 things you could change tomorrow that would make you a better listener.
1. ____________________________________________________________________________
2. ____________________________________________________________________________
3. ____________________________________________________________________________
Name at least 3 people who really listen to you.
1. ________________________________ 4. _____________________________________
2. ________________________________ 5. _____________________________________
3. ________________________________ 6. _____________________________________
Take the best listener you know and make a list of the traits that make him or her an exceptional listener.
1. ______________________________________________________________________
2. ______________________________________________________________________
3. ______________________________________________________________________
4. ______________________________________________________________________
5. ______________________________________________________________________
6. ______________________________________________________________________
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